September 11, 2019

Love, Joy and Selfishness

This word love is a very tricky thing. We love to do something because we feel good when we do it. We love someone because we feel comforted in their presence. We love to watch/hear/do/paint/read/write something because that act brings joy and we are longing for this joy all the time.

Then, if love is all about making ourselves feel good, does it mean that love is selfish?
Can you love someone even if their presence brings a worry to you?
Are you brave to love a situation even though it has brought frustration to you?
Can you love an act even if you feel grief during that act?

Let's go more deep.

What is the act?

Whose is the act?

Whose is the feeling?

What is bringing the feeling?

What is causing the feeling to reach the person who feels?

Is it the environment that brings joy or one's temperament that allows joy to be felt within?

Is joy coming from somewhere outside or is it that the act according to one's temperament is opening up the window that in turn allows the joy within to be felt by the person who is feeling?

Aren't we all filled with joy inside of us?

What is stopping us to feel that joy?

Our temperament? Our thoughts? Our mind? Our judgments? Our habits of mind?

A spiritual atmosphere like say, bhajan, puja or temple might sound uplifting to one. One may seek more of that company to keep oneself uplifted more often.

So when devotion towards a particular deity/spiritual figure/act/person seems to bring joy to one and he continues to do it to receive more of that joy, is one being selfish?

Is one being selfish when he is running behind love?

Is one being selfish when he is running behind god?

Is one being selfish when he is running behind acts/people that bring him joy?

When the joy one is seeking for, the god one is looking for are all within oneself, when the subconscious is pulling you towards itself, when your soul wants to make you realise that you are the joy you are seeking and you are the god whom you are praising - when this is realised, then they're no longer exists separation among the words you, other people, god, joy, devotion and love. All feels the same. Everything is realised to be ONE.

And, there no longer exists selfishness, bad causing situations, worry causing individuals because even in such scenarios if one probe within one's self, the subconscious is still wanting you to realise the presence of joy within, your soul is still wanting you to realise the god you are and your intuition, as always, is still wanting you to respond appropriately by listening to it.

There is only ONE. There is no other.

Tat Tvam Asi

September 05, 2019

Teacher's Day

This word 'Teacher' probably is an apt translation from the word 'Guru' of Indian origin.
Seriously and sadly, the meaning of guru has somehow gone wrong.

Who is a Guru?
When is a Guru required?
What is the role of a Guru?

Ancient Indian Education had children mostly spending time for the first 7 years at home alongside family members while some specific interests of the child would be observed by his family. Around 7 years or 9 years, the child would be taken to an appropriate Guru who would further take the child's interest forward by providing appropriate resources.

Fast forward to this day.

There are many teachers all around us. Teachers to teach every single thing to little children. Teachers who are bound by what they have to finish teaching in a certain period of time. Teachers who take the trouble of teaching a 3-year-old some sight words while all that the 3yo is interested in is free PLAY. Teachers who really control their temper trying to be cool while handling a 2 yo's temper tantrums because all he wanted to do was Play instead of sit for the circle time. Teachers who work very hard for children. Teachers who take up the responsibility to teach children. Teachers of all sorts.

But, let's go back one step.

When was this 'Teaching' required? Was it required right from the day a child is born? Children are natural learners. They learn from everything, everyone and everywhere. They need not have specific teaching instructions. A human born at any age of this world has the capability to learn the basic skills needed for that age. If reading and writing are treated as basic skills, so be it, the child would ultimately learn because all he sees is people around him are reading and writing stuff. If empathy, kindness and emotional balance are basic skills, so be it, the child would learn these from his close circle(usually the family) in whatever degree it is being displayed at home. If math and science are basic skills, so be it, the child learns those with his natural curiosity to count chocolates for sharing among friends or to count the money that he had saved for himself. Whatever it is that the child sees around is naturally and beautifully learnt by the child and even put to practice. This natural rhythm is disturbed once there is an intrusion of too much instructional teaching.

As a proof of natural learning, just observe how beautifully and naturally children learn to roll over, sit up, crawl, stand, walk and even talk in their own language, communicate ALL on their own!!

There was a post that I remember reading but don't seem to find it now.

(Source: Internet)

If there were schools that teach children to crawl and walk starting from the age of 6 months, children, parents and the entire society would be made to believe that a child cannot crawl and walk without actually going to a school and being 'taught'.

That has how the fate of Guru changed in the modern world.

What kids need are facilitators to take them forward in the areas of their interest. If the child still wants to pursue it, the child will realise to 'look' for an expert in that field.

That is exactly when the following lines seem true:

“When the student is ready the teacher will appear” 
"Once you seek with your heart, the guru appears"

In this modern world, the terms Guru or Teacher do not hold just one meaning. No matter what, there are teachers starting from those that work hard for the 6-month-old to those that try to teach a 4-year-old to those that worry about the 12-year-old who doesn't do much math. Kudos to their work. There is neither any wrong on the part of the teachers nor the parents or children.

Though the teachers work hard, so much of hard work is being misused in the name of commercialisation. (do not take it as a generalised statement, yet, holds true in most cases)

But, can we start thinking about where the society is heading towards when little children are intruded more and more with too many instructions?


Can we start to think a little beyond what the societal norm is and actually probe into what the child is seeking?

Can we start to think about the child?

Can we start to think what the child actually needs?

Can we, as parents, be their facilitators first until their interests are nurtured and they are looking for an expert as a Guru(again, this could be the parent)?


Can this one thought be the starting point of something new, something different, something unique - ALL in the benefit of our children?

#ReThinkParenting #RethinkEducation

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