July 10, 2019

Do you want the child to stop crying?

3yo falls down, she has bewildered(in a sense, beautiful) expression on her face while she is trying to figure out what just happened and realising that she has slipped on the floor.

An adult rushes to her saying 'oh, that was a great Jump. That was not a fall, but, indeed a big jump. Wow'.

Did we camouflage the child's sense of wondering and her trial of figuring out things with our fear(maybe she will start crying?) And misled words(we think we are comforting, instead)

Did we disconnect the child from her inner feelings?

Can we just connect to what the child feels at the moment and figure out things along with her?

Can we stop diverting the child's attention in order that she does not cry??

All emotions are natural. All feelings are ok. Let's embrace what the child feels and just 'BE' with them instead of labelling their action and reacting out of fear.

#RethinkParenting
#RethinkEducation

Trust the child or Push the child?

20 year old refuses to attend a community function as she feels she doesn't know anyone much and would not have a good company. Her choice is respected and she is left on her own.
4 or 8 years old refuses to participate in a group game in the function. She is pushed, coerced, rewarded with good girl labels until she gets herself in the group.
We may think that children of a certain age need us to make their decisions while we can leave children of another age to decide for themselves.
Truth is, child of any age can decide her action for herself. He/she is the one who should feel comfortable in a group and s/he is the one who should want to do something without an external push.
A constant external push for their schedules and what they should be doing will eventually make them looking for external consent and appreciation for their acts instead of listening to their inner voice.
Children of any age need our facilitation maybe to explore their surroundings better but not decisions from us.
Trust the child. Trust the child's feelings. Connect with the child. This helps the child to connect to their intuition better and listen to their own inner voice.

Do you want the child to stop crying?

3yo falls down, she has bewildered(in a sense, beautiful) expression on her face while she is trying to figure out what just happened and r...