January 25, 2019

Pretend Phones - Various Versions

I had made many pretend phones when DD1 was younger. Using various papers, cardboards, hard paper.












And now, DD1 herself makes various kinds of phones using thermocol, plain paper, wedding invite card, cardboard piece.



Sometimes, when she has an idea to make a specific type, she takes my help. Today's project was one of such kind. She wanted to have an openable phone(tab phone). She showed me how the two pieces need to be joined in order to be opened to operate. Following her instructions, I sewed two cardboard pieces along the longer edge. Made two for the two little ones.
















In the below pic, she explains, the left side top part has some options for videos and the lower part is the screen on which the video can be watched. Right side has enter buttons, send buttons, buttons for numbers, call and other functions.




January 24, 2019

Threatening to get things done?

A child is threatened by parent to wake up and get ready fast, to eat fast, to sleep fast, to finish the homework fast, to put on his socks fast, to wear his shoes fast and many more.

The child is threatened by teacher to eat fast, write fast and many more.

The same child threatens his sister for not doing what was asked by him.

The same child threatens his friend for not behaving what was asked by him.

The same child, now an adult uses non gentler ways to make his way through in his family life, with spouse, parents, parents-in-law.

The same child, now an adult, uses the same ways while raising his kids.

Do you notice a seed of 'using threat/using non gentle ways to convey your need' taking roots deep within the mind?

Where was the seed sown? When was the seed sown? By whom was the seed sown? Who is having to bear the fruit?

Parents, Teachers, Adults, please understand the tenderness of a child's heart and how much impact our words have on his and every other person associated with him in the coming years.

It takes a lot of courage, self discovery, time, mental effort to actually come out of what has been sown within and realise how beautiful life is and how gently we can raise another life in the actual sense. 

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#RethinkParenting

Playing Monopoly

How does your child learn basic english, maths without going to school?

Quite contrary to how schools make the child do basic arithmetic:






my child chooses to play games in the process of which she learns to count, add, subtract on her own with least(or zero) intervention/teaching from an adult.

She knows how much the dice on her turn has to show to move to a favourable square. She knows how much the dice on my turn has to show so that I skip picking up the money(free pick up) and she can pick up in her next turn.

She knows how many squares ahead the ticket booth is and how to avoid it in order to not pay any rent.

She can read what's written on each square.

She knows what the dice has to show even two or more turns prior to the winning square.

And, we have a bank to learn basic transactions in the game.







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January 23, 2019

Tongue Anatomy

My daughter asked me what the lines/strings are that she sees under her tongue.
She asked me if even I had.
I asked her to guess. She said may be tongue needs blood.
And I guessed too. Blood vessels.

Apart from that, I didn't remember even a single term of the tongue anatomy that I learnt in my school.
She suggested we should google.
Google gave many terms like pappilae and many more that i dont recall at all from my school knowledge.

I was supposedly a 'brilliant' student as the adults around said, I could write well, draw well, present well but all that I could do to answer my daughter's question was just guess and google about it to know more. All that I knew was seen in marks and ranks that are not really needed in other phases of our life.

Do I again wish my child go through this school learning, rote learn the terminology, write out all that she memorised and again end up googling when life poses practical question in other phase of life?

I do not think so.

I wish she has brilliant childhood memories than brilliant ranks at school. I wish she picks up the ability to learn than to prove her learning(mostly based on memorising) in marks and ranks. I wish she experiences life as it shows up to her than in an enclosed system of walls.

We did spend some good amount of time reading about tongue on Google and wiki.

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#curiousquestions

January 07, 2019

The Happy Place - Intro

Most people these days are having to spend most of their time during weekdays on a job which seemingly is to sustain the livelihood of today's world.
Yet, people are so unhappy doing their job that they keep looking for weekends to celebrate life in their kind of way.
Yet, people end up spending time in malls and restaurants that breeds on consumerism, thinking that they are having a happy time during weekends.
Yet, they end up being unhappy when one's life journey is pondered upon!

So, what is happening? What is each of us looking for?

One gets bored with the weekday job. One needs change in environment. One needs to meet new people. One needs to connect.

Each one is looking for happiness. But, alas! Each one is looking for happiness in the outside world, while it is deep rooted within the subconscious!

Why not create a space where you find happiness WITHIN yourself!
Why not create a space that does not breed on consumerism?
Why not create a space that does not burn a hole in the pocket?
Why not create a space that does not feed artificial food in the name of happiness to the tummy?
Why not create a space that lets you be you, and find THE you?
Why not create a space that lets you nullify the 'you'?

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The Churning Within - Intro

The Churning Within


Hello everyone!

All of us might already be knowing that emotional, spiritual, psychological wisdom adds to the state of happiness of our soul within.

Every moment is an opportunity for us to grow within. Universe has gifted a concept of free-will in order to set the soul free and self determine it's course of action. Yet, how many of us listen to our subconscious in our daily routine?

This series 'The Churning Within' by NurturoSoul encourages one and all to enter with an open, non judgemental mind, share and accept wider perspectives and move a bit closer to the soul within.

Thank you

January 04, 2019

What do I do?

Those who follow my posts would have known why I do not wish my children to be obedient, rather, think on their own(unless it is an emergency) before any act, why I do not wish to hurry up children or threaten them in completing a task.

The next obvious set of questions I have been asked many times are:

Do your children ever listen to you?
Are you always the one who gives in?
Don't you feel scared in giving them a free hand in all situations?
and the like.

Let me tell you,we face challenges in all phases of life and it is no less in parenting. The way conflicts are handled defines the beauty of living together. Parenting is not about how many times the child listens to the parent and how many times the parent listens to the child and balance this sheet in the end.

Children are capable of anything and everything.
It depends on what the parents want for the child or rather an absence of  'WANT'. If you wish to bring up a child who always listens to you, so be it. You could train them so. He would end up sleeping right when you say 'SLEEP'(loud voice), finish the meal right when you say 'EAT', sing in front of guests when you demand she show some of her talent, in order for the adult to be able to say that 'I get to make my child do any task as per my say'. But, remember, it is the adult's ego that wins in the battle, the child was never consciously happy while complying with all the commands. And this 'who listens to whom?' becomes a battle between egos as years pass by.

Next comes:

Are there any instances where my children really do what I request them to do?

Before I write on this, I would like to ask some questions:

Did the parent ever listen to her 3-month old when the infant was trying to convey something in her cries?

Did the parent ever listen to her 10-month old when she moved off her mouth as a sign of saying her tummy is full?

Did the parent ever listen to her 1-year old who was practicing her newly learnt skill of pouring water across glasses and not hush the child of creating mess?

Did the parent listen and try to understand the reason behind her 1.5 year old tantrum and not silence her cries by handing over a gadget or sweet treat?

Did the parent listen to her 2 year old who was talking her thoughts out instead of rushing/threatening the child to sleep?

Did the parent ever listen to the child who wanted to take off her shoes during  play?( btw, lot of brain development happens when we walk barefoot. Of course, safety taken care of).

All these years, until the child becomes vocal, there are lot of instances where she tries to convey her needs through her behaviour. A parent who valued this behaviour, be it cries or tantrums or meltdowns as a form of communication has gained immense trust with the child. This trust drives them forward. This trust makes the child understand the need of the hour and act accordingly.

If it is not safe and you want your child to put on her shoes, she would easily understand your intention only if you had understood her intention when it was safe and she wanted to experience barefoot walking.

If it is time to leave home and you want your child to eat as much as she can, a little quicker, she would understand the necessity only if you had understood her when she took longer time to eat the other day where there was no hurry.

So, everytime kids do something, there is no need to rush them,

Everytime you wish your child had acted in a manner you would want to, just chill, take a pause, understand your child's perspective and you would be amazed to learn something new from the child.

Rushing, hurrying kids, threatening kids are not TRUE solutions for any situation.

#RethinkParenting




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