May 26, 2017

The 'REAL' game - Nurturing emotions in children

What do you recall by the word games? Is it the interactive games you played as a child, the games that you play with your children or the games that you/your child plays on a gadget?

If it is the last one that comes to your mind, please take time to rethink how the precious childhood time is being utilised before you feel sorry for it later!

Not many days back, as DD1 was playing in the park while simultaneously calling for her sister very loudly so that she could see what DD1 is playing, there was another girl(6 year old) who came running to me as I was carrying DD2 in my arms. I asked her where her little sister was, to which the reply was, 'my sister is watching rhymes on TV'.
Me(thinking): Watching TV? And, of all the great things, it is rhymes?

And what I told her was, 'Rhymes? But, it would be so good if she was playing games?'

Her reply: 'We don't have games at home' Me(in mind): 'No games? No games at home?'.

Girl: We don't have games at home. Not in my daddy's phone and neither in my mummy's phone. We don't have games in any of the phones'.

Me(in mind): felt pity for what the word 'games' meant for children of this generation. Me to her: Oh!. But, not games you play on phones. By games, I mean, jumping, hopping, running, throwing, frog jump, kangaroo jump and many many games that we really, physically play.

She kept calm.

Children learn from the environment they were exposed to in their early childhood. If you thought you could calm your child when you are having a busy day, by handing him/her a smartphone or TV, be sure to also face the reality when the child starts to seek comfort in the gadgets when she is really, emotionally upset. It is what you gave her as a solution.

Show your children what real world is like. Show them how real emotions feel. If you keep giving them candy whenever they are upset, they tune their mind to seek comfort in an external thing (like a candy here) to handle their emotions in life later.

You could take a simple and real example here. Don't you feel like having a chocolate or a sweet dish or something you love to eat when you are just done with a tiring, stressful day? Though you don't realise it, what it actually conveys is that you seek comfort in external objects (like, things to eat) to relieve the tiredness or stress you had. Is that a real solution? No. What you really need during and after a tiring day is the ability to balance your emotions and senses. This gives you absolute peace of mind.

Are you on the right track towards knowing what this life is really for? Are you teaching your child to grow up to be just another person, just another you, or a unique her/him by nurturing his emotions and senses?

Happy Parenting!

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