June 21, 2015

Marriage - Facts and Fabrications

Marriage is a mutually agreed upon relation in which both the members strive for each other's happiness. In the sense, there is respect and love for each other that in turn becomes the reason for happiness for each of them and for the family at large.

I have recently stumbled upon this article here and do not agree with the pictures and statements. The following is my take on each of the pictures:


Every person's body undergoes physical changes irrespective of marriage or gender. Not many in their 30s or 40s look the same as they were looking in their teens. Of course, the amount of change in physical look varies from person to person based on many factors like health, body metabolism, adaptation to the location of stay and few other unavoidable reasons.
This figure that shows that a woman's body changes after marriage is not based on factual reasons, rather, that statement may or may not be true, if true, does not hold true for all sections of society, also, that statement need not be true only on the reason of marriage alone.


How many married women feel this is correct? Is it really true? I don't think so. Even after marriage you are welcome to eat whatever you like, just that, when you are cooking you cook keeping all the family members in mind. It is also true that, the woman does not cook any item that the husband alone likes to eat. Being in a family, you either cook one dish that caters to all or multiple dishes that cater to all. The point is, no one should be ignored and this would obviously not happen once both the wife and husband consider they are in a family of their own.


I seriously didn't get the point this picture is trying to convey. But, when there is a difference of opinion, you can talk to resolve. Difference of opinions may arise in any family, be it pre-marriage or post-marriage. When you think you are in own family, you will develop some level of comfort and talk to people to resolve any differences. Even post-marriage, once everyone in the house considers every other as an important family member, people take time to respect, talk and share.


Well, even after marriage, a woman can go out in high heels. Who says no?
And doing chores? This talks about the changes in one's life as each phase passes by. Again, this is definitely not based on marriage. Even an unmarried woman or man  would have to do her/his chores when he thinks he is responsible of his place of living and it is untidy.
This actually brings up a sense of responsibility that comes not just with marriage but with growing age and moving phase. Of course, there is no rule for taking up responsibility. Each one would have his own age to define what he should be responsible for. This is personal matter.


Is it!!! A woman can still take time out and spend in perming her hair or maintaining her persona. Doesn't she have enough time? Then think about how well one can be organised and how time can be used effectively. Not having enough time is not just because of getting married but because of the added sense of responsibility. This directs the answer to point #4. Also, I know many married women who spend time on toning themselves. Not something wrong. Each one has a boosting point or something which they enjoy doing or something that boosts their spirit. Point is, you have to realise what you are crazy for and take time out to do it. 


OK. This one is similar to point #4, doing chores at home. Needn't explain more.


The second picture is one in the kitchen. So, you mean a married woman spends all day in kitchen? If any one is, I would suggest to think over on time management. Dressing up for cooking as in picture is apt. And who says a married woman doesn't dress up pretty?!? A woman is always pretty no matter what dress she wears and of course, she dresses up pretty at every occasion. Every woman has her own definition of looking 'pretty'. Look around, there is still that innate beauty in every woman irrespective of age or phase in life.


This is also same as doing chores i.e., point #4. It is all about time management in different phases of life. A woman can always do grocery shopping, vegetable shopping as well as her personal shopping with proper time management. Or are you saying that a married woman does vegetable shopping 30 days a month, 365 days a year? Get the facts right. There is always ample of time for personal shopping.


Well, any person cannot wake up at the same time as he/she woke up in their childhood or teen years. The timetable changes when college starts, again when one is employed, again when one is married or takes up some other personal activity, again when in parenthood. This is life. Life cannot just stand still at one phase. It moves on. Even if it were not for a marriage, a woman may have to wake up early for job or for work out or for any other personal assignment. This is a sense of responsibility that comes with taking up any activity not just marriage. And needless to say, even a man starts to wake up early with changing responsibilities.


Oh, so you mean a woman does not have fun when driving with spouse in the pillion seat? Or you mean friends of unmarried women do not advise her for proper driving?
I would say, not at all true.

This post intends to convey the following message:

  1. It is not just marriage that brings change in a woman's life
  2. Even guy's life changes with marriage or any other phase
  3. A man who probably had never saved a penny in his teens starts planning for insurance and investments. 
  4. Every person's life undergoes changes with growing age and moving phase irrespective of gender
  5. Consider the positive side of life by having a broader outlook

(This is only my opinion and need not be agreed upon by every other soul living in this universe. Anyone disagrees is always welcome to come up with his/her own article.)
(All images are taken from here.)

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