May 14, 2015

How to handle toddler's tantrums

Every mother knows what a tantrum is and how intense it can get once the child becomes cranky. Remember, everything is a temporary phase and is a part of developmental behaviour of child. Instead of becoming upset with your child's behaviour and spreading the frustration all around, give the tantrum a thought and pull it down gently. Remember the basic rule - your child shows to you whatever you show to her. If you are pleasant with her, the pleasant frequency is spread around and she is pleasant. If you are frustrated with her, you get the same back from her. She is your mirror.

Now, it can also happen that parent is always cool but the child is somehow unhappy and showing her discomfort by yelling or messing around. Follow some basic rules to avoid such tantrums and try to get the child out of such situation using creative techniques.

Timely feeding and napping 

Well, it is almost needless to talk about importance of food and sleep - two basic necessities of any living being. With kids, the point is, try to regularise the timings of your child's feed and sleep and follow the same everyday. If it keeps swaying this way and that way, the child doesn't really understand what she is doing at what time of the day. Their hunger patterns will be disturbed and so are their sleep patterns. It is very important to set a fixed schedule and follow the same without taking lenience. Else, once the child starts feeling sleepy and immediately hungry, she refuses to eat properly due to the lack of sleep and refuses to nap well due to unhappy tummy and that is when you would have to handle a disturbed child.

Do not say 'No'

Did your child pick up something that you do not want her to? Is your child messing with the laundry clothes? Is your child playing with the dirty yet-to-do utensils? Your immediate reaction should never be a scream and 'No! Do not do that'. This reaction only pushes the child to go back and do the same thing, and when you don't allow her to, it results in tantrums and a screeching yell. Just allow her to hold whatever she has in her hand, take her close or carry her and tell her that it's like something very dirty and you become dirty and then you would have to clean your hands, feet, mouth and so on. Kids sure love stories. You need to be imaginative in the way you talk to your child. Your child will lend her ear to what you are saying and drop off the thing herself. You need to follow the same way of teaching in most of the aspects, or atleast create a pattern for yourself. And one day, when your toddler is little grown up and can talk fluently, she is sure to repeat the story you have been telling her and gradually learn what to do and what not to do.

Know what your child wants even before she asks for it
She wants to eat something or she wants her favourite toy or she wants to play in the pool or whatever it is, know what your child wants even before she asks for it. You may not want her to do it at that moment, but know what she wants and what she is likely looking for and either give it if it's the right time or tell her that she has to wait for sometime and you are going to give her, and please give it to her when you promised to do so. That way the child will feel happy as well as satisfied that she got what she wanted after some wait that is completely worth of. Do not make it a habit of keeping something away from a child and giving it to her after she asks for it repeatedly. In that case, the child learns that it must be the way of asking for whatever she wants to have.

Know what keeps her engaged

Before going out for a drive or shopping or to the regular grocery store, take along those toys, books or some snack that keep your child engaged. We may be going out to get some of our work done, but, it is not necessary that child will be interested in what we are. Children get bored very fast. They enter a place, explore for a while, pick up what they can reach for and get bored. They need change in place, change in the activity in too short a period of time. First, you need to be mentally prepared to face a fussy child or listen to tantrums right when you make your plan. This way you will be prepared of what technique you can follow once you face it.  Remember not to delay your child's feed or nap time when you are out. A hungry or sleepy child becomes hard to handle. Plan your trip always keeping in mind the child's schedule.

Don't lose your cool

Well, this is actually the foremost thing to follow when handling a fussy child. The frequency of your attitude with which you handle any situation spreads around like magic. And, needless to say, kids are the first ones who catch that frequency and reflect the same in their attitude. Remember you are an adult and she is just a child. The child learns and does exactly what you teach and do to them. Read more on how to interact with a child here. Handling kids does not seem simple, but is sure an experience that can be cherished when dealt with patience and fun attitude.


May 06, 2015

14 toy free games to play with your 1 year old

Every child loves to play. Isn't it? Try to make each game more interesting and unique.
You do not need toys all the time to entertain kids. Sometimes, playing with just people around is more fun! Following is one such list to have fun with your little one.


  1. Hide-n-Seek

Cheerful Little Baby Playing Hide and Seek

Kids just love the part of finding something they thought was hidden or not present for a while.
Hide yourself in a corner of a room and call out for your child’s name and secretly keep an eye on her expressions, you would just love them.  Try calling out with a funny tone and add few phrases like “Are you coming here? or Are you going to the right or Are you going to the left”, “ Oh, you are coming here”, “You are nearing and yaah you found me”. My child runs towards where I am and says “bow” “bow” when she sees me.

  1. Hide-n-Seek
Now, you can ask your child to hide in a room and tell her that you would come looking for her. They keep waiting for us to enter the room, yell a happy laugh and run towards us when we see them.
My child waits for me to come to the room where she’s standing and at the same moment I enter she runs  towards me with a scream and a “bow”.

  1. Draw it

Give the child a paper and a pen and ask to scribble. Kids just love doing messy things and scribbling is one of them ;) Add some fun by saying ‘Oh, you’re drawing a line?’, ‘Is that a line or a dot?’, ‘Oh you’re doing the dot dot all around?’ and look for the kid’s expressions.

  1. What is that?

You can draw simple things and ask your child to name it. Kids feel surprised as they see colourful shapes and forms being drawn on the paper. They basically  do not know from where the ink comes from and feel astonished to the fact that lines can be drawn on paper with a pen.

  1. Where is that?
Ask your kid where each object is around you. Like, ‘Where’s the fan?’ and the kid points at the fan, ‘Where’s the light?’, ‘Where’s refrigerator?’, ‘Where’s the calendar?’ etc. This one makes the kid think and the kid feels happy as he points out to each object around

  1. Question it

Give the child a large picture book and encourage her to ask you what each picture is. Watch the kid having fun as she points out to each picture and you name it. And if the kid gets a good hold of this activity, she continues asking you what every object around her is which increases her thinking capability and develops willingness to question and learn more.

  1. Catch me
You can play catches with your child right from the time she starts crawling. It keeps getting more interesting as she grows. You can ask her to run and you catch her or ask her to catch you as you walk away from her.

  1. Where is thumbkin?

This is a popular finger play that kids enjoy watching as well as doing it themselves.
Theres a rhythm in which you sing this and the lyrics along with actions are:
Where is thumbkin? Where is thumbkin?
(Hide hands behind back)

Here I am! Here I am!
(Show L thumb, then R thumb)

How are you today, sir?
(Wiggle L thumb)

Very well, I thank you.
(Wiggle R thumb)

Run away, run away.
(Hide LH behind back, then RH)
Repeat the same with other fingers and then the entire hand in the end.
Where is pointer?
Where is tall man?
Where is ring man?
Where is little man
Where is family?

9.      Gudu Gudu Gunjam

This is a telugu rhyme in which you fold the palms and place one on top of other this way
                         

                                     (Picture source: Google.com)

Gudu gudu gunjem, Gunde ragam
pamula patnam padige ragam
chinnana gurram chindhulu thokke
pedhanna gurram pelliki poye
Pellikoduku gurram meenchi daam padipoyadu

And now hold the ears of the person to your left and right saying dee deee deee deee while swaying both the sides

My daughter just loves putting her little finger in my folded palms and loves the swaying part.

10. Zip zap zoom

This is an interesting game. You join your hands and sway it left to right and then do(enact) whatever is said in the rhyme

Zip zap zoom
Up together
Down together
Front together
Back together
Side together
Eat together
Sleep together
Early in the morning
Open the door
Hello mister Chimpanzeee
Woooooooooo

Now, you can repeat the same with mister doggy or mister pussy cat or whatever the kid likes. Example:

Hello mister doggy
Bow bow

Hello mister pussy cat
Meow meow

11.  Ringa Ringa Roses


(Picture source: Google.com)
This is a very popular game across many places. Also, Kids love anything that moves round and round and round and round.

Hold each other’s hands and moving in a circular fashion singing out the rhyme:

Ringa ringa roses
Pocket full of posies
Asha Busha
We all fall down
And then everyone just fall down on the floor

12.  Aamina Kattamina

You alternatively do a clap with your hands and give a hi five to the other person singing along the song:

(first sing in slow pace)

Aamina Kattamina
Sing a song
Ding a dong

(now repeat in fast pace)

Aamina Kattamina
Sing a song
Ding a dong
Carrom board
Barrom board

S…T….O….P( in a very slow pace)
STOP(touch baby’s nose with your pointer)
Your baby is sure to giggle.


13. Inky Pinky Ponky

My daughter loves this one, she keeps smiling as I point at her and me alternatively singing the rhyme:

Inky pinky ponky
Father had a donkey
Donkey died
Father cried
Inky pinky ponky


14. As we walk

This one was my childhood game that we used to enjoy a lot and so does my daughter these days. She keeps walking and moving around turning her body and moving around and smiling at me ultimately making me smile. 

As we walk to the left and we walk to the right (walk two steps to the left and another 2 steps to the right)
as we walk, as we walk, as we walk walk walk (walk two steps to the left and another 2 steps to the right)
with a heel and a toe and a one leg turn (point your heel to the ground and then your toe to the ground and make a full round turn)
with a heel and a toe and a new friend found (point your heel to the ground and then your toe to the ground and bow down at your child)




Some kiddy paintings for kids

Well, I made these when I was pregnant with my daughter.





1 year birthday decoration

Made these for my daughter's 1st year birthday.




May 05, 2015

zig zag cut card - Handmade


Inclined step card - Handmade


Peek a boo - Handmade


Mini Album/ Personalised message book - Handmade







Card - Handmade

Love makes the world go round.





Card - Handmade

This one may seem simple but the tiny tiny flowers had to be punched out carefully.
Handmade is not as easy as bulk production using machine, but, it surely has love associated with making of it.


Wall Hanging - Handmade

Sharing, caring and happiness.


Home is where love is - Wall Hanging - Handmade

Who would not want to get home for the comfort, warmth and love it has to offer?



Photo Frame - Handmade

This one is a simple photo frame.




Diaper Pouch card - Handmade

Well, all those mommies and daddies experienced with changing diapers and all that stuff can relate to this easily :P


Cup Cake card - Handmade

This opens up with a short message.



Card in a card - Handmade Card

This card also has pom poms!! (the little blue ones)

Everything handmade with love.


Smiley Ring

Put a smile on your face and this ring around your finger.

Inspired by the song I keep singing to my child: Where is thimbkin...Where is ringman....refer to point 8 here for the complete game(song).


Schedules and Motivation

Time is 8 30 AM. Both kids are done with waking up, brushing teeth, had milk, played around and ate breakfast. That's wha...